hmmmm, so many information missed out here that i need
things like " do u know her outside of FB ? , does she know u ? , age bracket ? , plan after confession and reciprocation ? ..
hmmmm, so many information missed out here that i need to know to be able to give a full specific answer. things like ” do u know her outside of FB ? , does she know u ? , age bracket ? , plan after confession and reciprocation ? .. .. i mean , what if she said yes? , do u have a plan for what comes after ? .. and many other questions that i’d like to ask to be able to answer, But … i’ll try to give u a glimpse of what i think about “confessing love” in general. … 1- it’s confessing ” feelings” .. NOT ” love” . love is one of the very most advanced stages of a relationship . it’s not something u feel at the beginning .. AT ALL . what u mistake for love, is actually called ” infatuation” . it is fantasizing about the person, and your needs, and your dreams, and all that … .. and infatuation can grow into many things other than love, and not necessary lead to a relationship. and the sooner u realize that, the better it’ll be for you and for that girl if you ever decided to contact her. if you can accept that and understand it, you can happily have a crush on someone, and just leave it at that, without needing to move based on those feelings . i am not saying u shouldn’t approach her, but saying that you don’t have to , and u can think and analyze your feelings in a clearer way before approaching her . … 2- i believe it’s an agony to live in such a state . .. meaning, i never liked the idea of having a crush on someone whom i can’t get out of my head, and who i believed to be a possible mate… without taking an immediate and decisive action to define the relationship based on their position.
i had many crushes, on a lot of girls, but the moment i felt that i am considering that girl to be my mate for life, i took action to define the relationship and stop my brain from wondering alone. “GET THE BALL IN HER COURT” .
it’s not easy, and requires a ton of courage i know, but i always thought my brain power is best spent on dealing with the consequences of confessing, rather than on wondering alone at night.
there are many options she can take:
- accept u
- reject u
- friendzone u
- any other zone u
but what’s great about all of that, is that you’ll be able to define your true feelings based on true objectives, not just thoughts. … 3- YOLO. the first time i jumped from 6 meters into the water, was an amazing rush of adrenaline, but all the next times i did it, was just an easy routine. the first time i stood infront of a crowd to give a speech, i thought my heart is gonna explode, but all the next times felt much much easier . .. much after each resembling experience, i felt so nostalgic, and really wanted to relive that adrenaline rush again, and learned to recognize it and enjoy it in all my life’s events .
confessing your feelings, is a an adrenaline rush like no other, and however it goes, you’ll love it and love relive it many times.
never mind how will she react, but enjoy it for yourself .. that honesty and clarity you’ll feel while doing it ..
rarely in our lives where we get to experience that .. relish it :D .